I would ask her why because i would have done my best for the children, i may fail in my attempts but i will always try for them. We brought them into the world, we should not only educate but teach them how to live and the good values in life.

Not just being number 1 in this assignment or that class but what it means. The world is too steeped into instant gratification, we want it and we want it now.

I will teach my children:

1. You don't need a condo or a big house to be happy, no matter how big or grand or how many rooms, you only sleep in 1 bed at a time.

2. You don't need a fancy car to feel the wind in your hair, no matter what car you drive, you can only have your rump on one car seat.

3. You don't need a gucci, prada or coach bag to have self esteem (assuming daughter)
If son, bang head on the wall, rinse and repeat until he wakes up his idea.

4. No amount of garish or noble titles can save one's life once your time is up

5. Your tombstone will only say your name, your date of death and your spouse/children/grandchildren names at most. It does not contain a title nor does it states your PHD. Not that anyone would care even if they do see it. The exhumation workers wouldn't care either as they spit into your tomb after 15 years.

6. If you fail, try again, if you fail again, try harder. If all else fails, feel free to go fishing, daddy will go with you. Will always be there for you until my eyelids are closed forever.

7. There is no such thing as if you fail in the academic system, you are doomed for life and have to be a road sweeper. Forget what the teachers said, if according to my Secondary School teacher, Miss Chow,i would be a 500 dollar banglah road sweeper.

8. You don't need to be number one, you don't need extra lessons. You are always number one in dadd's eyes. You don't need to prove anything to me, just from the start of your birth, i am always proud of you, always.

9. Care for others feelings as if you were the person. Be grateful for life's graciousness and be compassionate to others. Live honourably and do your deeds with pride, our lives are not forever, all shall come to an end, both rich or poor.

10.Be happy and once in a while, remember me and your mum with a smile when we depart from the world. A part of us will always live on in you for we will accompany you every step of the way. That is our promise.

Having done all these and doing my best, if she is still there working as a FL/Pro, i shall have to do the honourable thing to preserve her honour and do my duty as a dad.

I shall have her and my wife leave first and i will very soon follow.

Added this last part:

I have a lot of faults and went through a lot of mistakes in my life but one thing though that i have never done (so far) is to use the services of any, ahem working ladies so if i really see her there, likelihood its the makan places.